individual, couples therapy
Mariefrance Cote, LMFT is a therapist in Marin County with many years of experience working with individuals and couples with a CBT, solution-focused and emotion-focused approach. One of her passions is supporting clients to feel greater creativity and freedom in their lives.
Individuals seeking therapy often have been feeling a level of dissatisfaction with one or more aspects of their life. Or simply sense that there is more to themselves and their life they wish to discover and express...This is where we meet.
In our work together, we’ll explore thought patterns and behaviors that promote dissatisfaction and, once identified, we’ll replace them with affirming patterns that pave the way for you to create your life more consciously. Shortly after our work begins, you’ll likely experience an increase in energy, and I view this energy as potential. You’ll become awakened to a potential that was always there, though it was likely obstructed by stress and relational challenges. We’ll channel this potential into productive and creative endeavors that, one step at a time, will lay the groundwork for lasting change.
As therapy progresses you’ll be able to look back on the past not with regret and lethargy, but with lessons learned. You’ll begin to boldly press down this new path, equipped with understanding, creativity, and mind/body wholeness. This is achieved through exploring the dynamics of significant relationships, both past and present – beginning with your relationship with yourself.
Emotional and spiritual maturation is a process whereby you identify your needs and desires and use this new-found potential to breathe new life into them. You’ll watch in active amazement as your relationships with others and, most importantly, with yourself, are transformed. Through this transformation, your career, hobbies, and creative projects will bask in new light as well...
I feel honored to watch individuals blossom. When sitting with you, I track what you are identifying as important, and what no longer serves you. You'll have identified goals, and we'll gage progress by how you are coming along with those goals, and how joyful and satisfied you feel. I firmly stand by a therapeutic process that combines a Solution-Focused approach together with components of Cognitive-Behavioral therapy, and Depth and Somatic therapy.
Here are some issues of interest I work with and have specialized training:
Anxiety and Depressive States
For many intimate couple relationships are at the core of the experience of life satisfaction. While couple relationships can be deeply rewarding and fun, often after the initial “honeymoon” phase of a relationship, couples find themselves becoming stuck in emotional patterns that dampen the sense of joy in relationship. This phase can lead to escalating conflict and disillusion about the future of the relationship. However, this is a very potent turning point for a relationship, for it is at this time that conflict and dissatisfaction can be explored and worked through, and transform to the next level of growth and intimacy in the relationship! For others, beginning a relationship with an exploration of mutual aspirations and goals within a therapeutic context can set the stage for creating the Fundamental Key Components of a Successful Relationship (see below).
In therapy with a couple, I align with them to get clarity on their goals and explore behaviors and thinking/emotional patterns that get in the way from achieving those goals. A good amount of focus is directed toward fostering positive communication that diffuses reactivity, builds responsibility and deepens intimacy. Exploring how building compassion and understanding of each other’s triggers and sensitivities can support the appreciation each partner’s qualities, and enhance the relationships rather than dampen it, is also at the core of Couples Therapy. I am fascinated with satisfaction and dissatisfaction with typical gender roles in relationships. I am currently writing a book on the dynamics of patriarchy in relationships.
Fundamental Key Components of a Successful Relationship:
- Compassion and Empathy
- Humor, fun
- Positive Communication
- Shared Goals
- Safety; Emotional and Physical
- Sexual/Intimate Satisfaction
I specialize and have training in working with the following couple experiences/challenges:
- Attachement Enhancement
- Conflict Resolution
- Life Transitions
- Sexual Abuse in one Partner
- Sexual Intimacy
I integrate the following modalities:
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Existential and Narrative Therapies
- Somatic Experiencing
*I have experience working with same sex couples, alternative couples, and relationship configurations.
If you’re ready to release your potential and begin a new chapter in your life, take the first step and contact me HERE.
When working with couples, we usually meet for 80 minutes, as I have found this allows for the work to deepen and get to the matter of things for you. If you absolutely wish to meet for 50minutes only, we can explore that option.